We recently came across this post by a Gay Mormon who is happily married with children he says, Josh Weed is his name and he has a long post you can read on his website. This fascinated me, as a Mormon (with the Fundamentalist label) I have struggled with the moral ramifications of homosexuality, and yet as someone in an “alternative lifestyle” myself, I understand the importance of allowing everyone the opportunity to love who they want to love and be true to who they are. I have very good friends who are gay and I certainly don’t judge them, in fact I believe they are some of the best people I know. I guess I am on a journey and am comfortable to identify what I know and what I don’t know. What I know is that I am to love my neighbor as myself, something I struggle every day with.
This post is certainly not the “solution” but an interesting take that I have never seen before, I am interested in your thoughts?
A portion of it is here:
This is the post where I tell you that I, Josh Weed, am homosexual.
When my wife Lolly and I do tell people about this—and we’ve been telling a lot of people lately, so we’ve gotten really practiced at it—they usually have a lot of really good, genuine questions. Here are some of the questions we’re most frequently asked (there really should be an acronym for that—I know! I’ll call it a FAQ!). We hope answering these questions will help you understand how we make sense of this delicate and complicated issue in our lives.
What do you mean when you say you’re “gay”?
When I say I am gay or homosexual or same-sex attracted (and I use these terms interchangeably, which is a personal decision) I refer specifically to sexual orientation. I am sexually attracted to men. I am not sexually attracted to women. It is very simple. I have many, many years of experience which confirm this to be true, but it’s really as simple as what a girl asked me in junior high—and I’m sorry if this is a little blunt, but I’ve never found a question that cuts to the heart of the matter more effectively—”so, if everyone in this room took off their clothes, would you be turned on by the girls or the guys?” My answer, which I didn’t say out loud, was unquestionably the guys. And it was unquestionably not the girls. And that still is my answer. It’s really not very complicated. Most people just don’t think about their sexual orientation because they don’t have any reason to.
Why have you decided to share this information?
We have several reasons for opening up about this part of our lives. First and foremost, my clinical work as a therapist is taking me in the direction of helping clients who struggle to reconcile their sexual orientation with their religious beliefs. I have decided to be open with these clients about my own homosexuality, and in doing so have opened the door to people finding out about this in ways I can’t control. The second reason is that the issue of homosexuality is not very well understood. We wanted to add our voice and experience to the dialogue taking place about this very sensitive issue. Thirdly, I feel the desire to be more open regarding this part of my identity. I have found that sharing this part of me allows my relationships with others to be more authentic. It has deepened my friendships and enhanced my interactions, and it has also helped me to feel more accepted by others as it allows others the opportunity to choose to accept me for who I really am.