It’s complicated. To be honest, I have no idea how other polygamists celebrate this lovers’ holiday. I think there are some who pass it off as just another day on the calendar. Others might keep it low-key with a card and flowers.
In years past, I remember Joe saying he didn’t need a special holiday to express his love for us…it was something he did every single day. And I didn’t entirely disagree with him. He is always finding ways to show how much he cares. Whether it’s a tender embrace in the kitchen while I’m cooking dinner or sending an unexpected text in the middle of his workday, he manages to make me feel special.
If there was one thing to complain about it’s this; he feels that giving flowers is a waste of money. I know! Right? I don’t entirely agree with him on this one but I kind of don’t blame him either. There is a story in our book where he goes to the florist to send flowers to Vicki and Alina for Valentines. This was before I ever came along. It ended badly. You can read about it for yourself on page 195.
One year he came up with a brilliant idea. He suggested we have a party by polygamists, for polygamists. We would invite people who believe in or live the Principle of Plural Marriage. It’s been a tradition ever since and has really been successful in taking the pressure off the man to come up with something for each wife. We have a different theme every year for food and decor. First it was Italian, then Asian, Hawaiian, Mexican and this year it will be French. We will be preparing Julia Child’s famed Boeuf Bourguignon (Beef Burgundy). As well as some moist and delicious sugar cookies for which I will share the recipe below.
Each year we ask our guests to add to the fun. The year we had Asian food they were all to write their own fortune “fit for a polygamist” like you might find in a fortune cookie. The next year they were to make a homemade Valentine card that could be used by a polygamist. There were such creative ideas, we were falling off our chairs, doubled up with laughter. This year they were asked to come up with a ‘candy-gram’ that is polygamy themed.
Now for the heart-shaped sugar cookies with pink frosting. They are always so festive and the tray is empty long before the party is over.
Sour Cream Sugar Cookies
3 cups flour
1 1/4 tsp baking powder
1/2 tsp baking soda
1 tsp ground nutmeg (personally, I omit this)
1/8 tsp salt
1 1/2 cups granulated sugar
1/2 cup butter
1 cup sour cream (the secret ingredient that keeps them moist)
1 large egg
1 1/2 tsp vanilla extract
In a medium bowl combine first five ingredients (or first four if you omit the nutmeg, like me). Set aside.
In a large bowl cream sugar and butter, beating until fluffy. Add sour cream, egg and vanilla extract and beat well. Stir in flour mixture. Cover and chill in refrigerator for one hour.
After one hour preheat oven to 375 degrees. On a lightly floured surface roll out dough to 1/4 inch thickness (I usually do 1/3″ or even 1/2″, I like them thick!). Cut into shapes with cookie cutters. Using a spatula, transfer cookie shapes to ungreased cookie sheet 2″ apart.
Bake 8-10 minutes. Store in airtight container.
Cream Cheese Frosting
1/2 cup butter (room temperature)
8 oz cream cheese (room temperature)
4 cups powdered sugar
1 1/2 tsp vanilla extract
Red or Pink food coloring
Whip butter and cream cheese together until smooth and creamy. Add powdered sugar and vanilla extract. Beat until fluffy. Stir in food coloring. Spread on THICK (that’s how I like it!).