Lucky Number Seven

Enjoying the love of my grandson Asher.

 

Before I was married, I never put an exact number on how many children I would have. I just knew I wanted a lot. Then one evening Joe and I were having a discussion about our future and Joe asked me how many children I wanted. Without hesitation, I blurted out, “seven!”  I didn’t know why, It just felt right.

I have never been superstitious except maybe with this one little thing; My lucky number has always been seven. I am the seventh child in my family, born on September 7.  When I was just five years old, we were at a local fair. I won the most amazing “lady bug” cake while standing on number seven in a cake walk. The only option for me in any numbers game we played as kids was seven. Even in 2011 when I testified before the British Columbia Supreme Court on polygamy, I was witness number seven!

After we were married, I got pregnant right away. Within four years, I had my first two children—Joseph and Laura. Things were going well for me and I loved being a mother. When I turned 25, I began to get really sick and was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes. I could barely function every day. Having another child was out of the question. I could not get pregnant until I had the diabetes under control. It took me four years, and I was overjoyed when I conceived Shad! I often thought about whether I would really have seven children or if my body could handle the pregnancies with the diabetes.

I worked hard with my diet and exercise to keep my blood sugar in excellent control.  After Shad, I had my son Ashton and then my daughter Kyra. Kyra was my fifth child, a beautiful 10-pound baby girl. But Kyra had a heart defect and other health problems and passed away at 5 months old. I wrote about the experience of losing my baby girl in our book, Love Times Three.  After Kyra passed, I felt a deep emptiness inside. I wanted another baby, but I was afraid and needed time to heal.  A year and a half later, I was ready.  Allie was born and helped fill the hole in my heart. Three years later came Vanessa, my seventh! While I was pregnant with her, I knew she would be my last. The diabetes made pregnancies difficult with the constant appointments, monitoring and non-stress tests. It took a toll on my body.   

Vanessa is now seven. She and all my children are growing up so quickly. Laura is now a mother herself!

Sometimes I really want another baby. For me, the connection and bond between mother and baby is unmatched. But it is time now for me to focus on other pursuits, my health, and being there for the children I have.

But that doesn’t mean I miss out on the joys that babies bring.

I figure this is one of the great benefits of my lifestyle. With Vicki having another baby and a grandson to enjoy, I get plenty of cuddle time!

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8 Responses to Lucky Number Seven

  1. Ashley says:

    Beautiful post Alina. I have 3 children but do to my first being breeches I have had to have all c-sections. I want 6 children badly but I’m not sure my body would be able to handle that many. It’s nice to see a post like this that touches my heart. When ever the lord blesses us with another wife I will be able to enjoy her children as my own too. This lifestyle is a true blessing.

  2. Liz says:

    Thank you so much for sharing. Although I can’t relate 100% I do understand what it is like to lose a child. I just passed the one year anniversary of losing my son at 27 weeks pregnant. I think we will be trying by the winter to concieve again. I just want to give my husband the son he desires so badly.

  3. Melissa Robles says:

    Wow your an amazing woman. I was not blessed with my own children but I was incredibly blessed to be a foster mom. I got to help and love teen girl that so desperatey needed it. However there is still that desire to have a baby, no mater how god bring one, I still pray he does.

  4. Heather says:

    I just admire you and your family so! I hope your doing well with your diabetes I know its a pain having a daughter myself who is type 1 also. I know your gonna love having a new baby in the house to rock, cuddle, and love it will certainly be a blessing and bring joy to the whole family. God bless and best wishes to you and the family.

  5. Alisha Darcy says:

    This is incredible. You all are so loving and accepting. I know getting there at times is difficult. However your family bond is so God centered its incredible!!!

  6. lacy says:

    Your story is so touching. I have two little ones, 2 and 1, and am due to have a third soon. God decided to bless me with kids early on, I suppose, I only wish He would bless us with a second wife so our children could grow together. I am so happy for you and your family, and wish you the very best on the upcoming arrival of another little Darger. I hope you all are excited to hold such a little bundle close. God bless you all, and keep up the Faith.

  7. Rella Capraro says:

    Thank you for sharing. I have a new and wonderful understanding of you, Alina. So kind of you to let us in your world like this.

    I am in the change and babies aren’t in my future, physically, either. I have recently come to appreciate the new doors that are there for me to create an exciting new world. I can appreciate what a blessing sister-wives who can have babies to share is.

  8. Terri says:

    Alina, Thank you for sharing. I’m truly sorry for your loss. I lost my son Eric at the young age of 27, my sweet manny (nickname) passed away May 27, 2013. Just a little over 6 months now, and I still have such a hard time moving forward. My Eric is a father of 3 (2 girls & 1 son) our grandson was born just 30 days before our son passed away. Not sure why I’m sharing, please forgive me. The picture showing as my profile pic is my son Eric and I and my background picture is of both my children Eric and Shelby. I’m sorry I’m sharing my troubles, Your family is lovely. Have a blessed day.

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