Mr. Mom. A Polyamous Dad’s Journal Part 1

This is Part 1 of a four part day by day Diary of last week while my wives were on a “Girl Trip” in Montana for four days.

Thursday, August 1

I had just arrived at football practice to pick up my son Tavish when my cell phone rang. I saw our home phone number on the caller I.D.

“Dad!” It was Kylie.

“The garbage can fell and Allie cut her foot on it and it’s bleeding all over. It has a big hole and she is crying really bad!”

I scanned the fields, where 20 teams were practicing, and could see no sign of Tavish. So I raced back to the house. As I drove, I tried reaching several neighbors on the phone to see if they could assess how serious the situation was for me. Usually, there is at least one mom home. But today, I had no backup.

Alina, Val and Vicki left earlier in the day for “Momtana,” as my 4-year-old calls it. It’s an annual vacation with their sisters and friends and, as always happens on these “girl trips,” I’m in charge of the homefront. Yep, Mr. Mom.

And I have to say this was not starting out the way I hoped.

When I got home, I saw Allie’s foot might need a few stitches. I cleaned the wound, put a good butterfly bandage on it and calmed her down. The house took a bit longer to put back together. As I settled down the kids, I called Liesl, who was on her way home from work, to see if she could swing by the football fields and find Tavish. By this point, he’d been waiting 45 minutes for a ride.

Let’s face it: When I takeover, I don’t have the finesse the mothers do. I go about things with blunt efficiency and expect a lot of personal responsibility from everyone.

Our children started school this week and they are not used to school-year bed time. You probably know just how that is! The process takes a lot longer than normal.

I let the little ones crawl into their mother’s beds — Krista in Val’s bed, Tori in Vicki’s. Maddy, who is 14, settled in with Krista, while 18-year-old Liesl cuddled up with Tori.

I took Alina’s bed. It is strange sleeping alone. I only do it when I travel for business and I don’t like it then. It is rare that I do it in my own bed. I probably had the hardest time getting to sleep! It is day one and I already miss them. I am afraid this is going to be a long weekend.


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7 Responses to Mr. Mom. A Polyamous Dad’s Journal Part 1

  1. Garett says:

    Cowboy Up!!!! Football is starting take advantage of your free time.

  2. Kari Kirkland says:

    I think everything you said happens to every male that is left unattended. Some how the house always falls apart while I am gone and when I walk in, it magically comes back together like a puzzle. Back to school bed times…what a BEATING!@

  3. Paweł Szulik says:

    Well done, Joe. We men can usually do one thing at time. That’s how our brains work. We see the target and we do our best to hit it. Women are multitasked. I think that you did a great job for a man :) Greetings.

  4. Anne says:

    Way to go, I give you a big points for trying. So many dads/husbands wouldn’t even try.

  5. Lacy says:

    Your doing good for your first day! Daddies have it easy when mommies are home it seems. I know just sleeping and waking up on the weekends when my dear is in charge I awake to havoc. Kids are just so use to Daddy being the fun parent perhaps. But when I get up things settle down. My dear is the same way when it comes to sleeping though, he doesn’t sleep well unless he can cuddle. Suggestion: Alternate wife rooms and cuddle a pillow. Hope your wives are having a wonderful time in “Momtana”.

  6. Rella Capraro says:

    Soo cool! Sounds like u handled it very well. Thank u for sharing. I go on my annual “momcation”, too. I was wondering if polymoms got to do this, too.

  7. charity says:

    Well, if it helps…most Mr. Moms do NOT have 21 kids to tend. :)

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