That’s Love!

After Laura’s wedding ceremony the photographer got busy taking photos of the bride and groom, groom’s family, bride’s family, etc.

When that was all done, the four of us wanted to get some group shots as well as couples’ portraits.  We found a good spot in the front yard and got started. Earlier in the day, there had been a bit of a cloud cover so there was no squinting or shadows but now the sky was in full shine mode.  Joe and Alina were trying to set up and get in the shade enough to avoid the shadows but ended up too close to the tree. So Val grabbed a folding chair, held it in just the right spot and stretched as far as she could over their heads to cast perfect shade as the photographer snapped away.

We each took turns holding the chair for the other shots. One wedding guest happened to be moving her car out of the driveway and saw what was happening.  She rolled down her window and said, “Now that’s love, look at that, holding that chair for her sister wife so she can get a picture with her husband!”

It might seem strange but this is very much a typical event in our daily lives.  It doesn’t take anything from me to give back — in fact, it fulfills me even more.  Some would argue that a woman would have to be insecure to live this way, to think that she has to share a husband but it is just the opposite. We have to be secure in our love . . .  and our love for each other.

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One Response to That’s Love!

  1. Stephania says:

    Firstly congrats and glad it was a great time for all. Now about the comment made:

    So even with this being family or friend this didn’t strike you as weird? I mean, you’re fine with the sentiment and it’s one thing to think it- but quite another to make a comment out a car window. I don’t know, it seems awkward as well intentioned as it probably was. It just seems as if it would feel kind of odd having someone kind of editorialize upon your relationship(s) in that particular context- as say opposed to here, where the context is about sharing, commenting. I’m glad you took it in the way it was intended and not as a backhanded compliment- I suppose it would depend on the sympathies or situation of the people involved, the nature of your relationship to them, their age etc., and past history how much of a pass they would get. This kind of comment would rarely be said in the context of a mono relationship without some kind of snarkiness involved , or worse, pity in the form of a verbal scalpel..

    This kind of thinking I believe is borne out of the concept that all love is romance novel, or soap opera or late-night pay tv ‘love’ – as well as the idea that one kind of love automatically puts up electric fences and precludes any other kind of love. That all love is one type of love and that is the ‘Gone with the Wind’ swept away and/or passionate love and that any other kind of love sort of tarnishes or somehow ruins whatever their idea of love is- and for some, maybe it does. Some people thrive on compartmentalization- meaning This kind of love belongs here, that kind of love belongs here, some maybe just have a finite amount of what they are able to give, either to just one or anyone else.
    That said, almost everyone who lives your way that has spoken out publicly acknowledges not everyone is cut out for it- that is definitely not the same as the people who are of the either/or belief or the ‘Well, ya’ll are going to he double-toothpicks’ crowd- but I think most people are not of that mind, most will probably say “well I couldn’t handle it (for whatever reason, jealousy, too many people to deal with or support either financially or emotionally or otherwise- but if it works for you all, and all are consenting adults, no one is being abused or oppressed, than it’s a free country, so do what you want.”
    It’s a brave thing you are doing, knowing that while sure, the majority may have the ‘eh, it’s their life, if they are making it work, good for them’, but that some are going to not approve, or have their own judgements about what is right or wrong- that some are not going to approve and some are going to be downright hostile and many of them simply have an inaccurate view of your way of life because they simply have not had any exposure to it or believe that somehow all polygamists are the same, as if you have all been kidnapped into it, or it is some strange cult, and the women have no choice , will of their own – but when listening to all of you tell it, this is not at all the case. Why is tolerance advocated for everyone and everything else but somehow your way of life is not acceptable? This strikes me as hypocritical, especially given the cultural history and background.
    Good luck on your next interview, if I can’t catch it live I hope they maintain an audio download of the interview on the site. Please post links if they do!

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