Christmas at the Darger's

2011 Christmas Morning For a Polygamous Family

This was the title page of Kyley’s Christmas wish list/story/letter. The next page begins…

“This is the story of a little 4th grader who looked like a second grader. She had a timid heart, and a small face, but NEVER forgot how specil, Important, and sweet she was. Now this little one, wanted nothing more, than to be a teacher. So, on her 10th Birthday she got 2 whiteboards and some markers, she loved them so much, she used them right away. Now on the year she turned 10, christmas always comes around. She sent a note to her MOMS & Dad. She gave it to them on the 20th so they only had 5 days to decide.”

Kyley is always writing little notes that make me laugh. She can be a precocious little girl and her personality always comes out in her writing.

She gives instructions to ‘TURN PAGE if you want to see christmas list & note’. She had a list of ten things. She asked for  things like jewelry, a glass doll, CD player etc. Next to the number 10 it said “Next page for #10->”. I turned the page and this is what I read…

“P.S. Show this to the other parents :)

Dear Mom,

The 10th Thing I want for Christmas is to ACTUALLY BE A TEACHER! (I am crying right now.) And what I mean is be a morning KINDERGARTEN teacher and that means, skip morning class because I am really good at morning work in Mrs. S- class. (I think.) You know mom (Val) evry time I am teaching, I ask you to watch, you say o.k., next thing I know your talking to someone els, its crazy! So why I am at school, you can come and go talk to the principal about it. Then for christmas next thing you know I’m hugging you like crazy. You can just send a note to me explaining why yes or no. Don’t worry even if you say no I will love you anyways, even if its the only thing I get I’ll be happy, and remember when we read about that 5th grader that became an auther, well what I Believe, is that if a 5th grader can become an auther, then a 4th grader can become a teacher. I do oh do hope you will let me. Plus Mrs. Davis [the principal] knows you, she would probebly let me. I also believe that Christ the Savoir would give me the strength and the courege. :) Plus think if you were the child, and you don’t want to take the time to grow up, you just want to do it, you have to do it, your pleading to do it. Well, even if you have to show this to Mrs. D-, Do It! I’ll even work on my handwriting. :) :) :) :) :)  :)  PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE!

Love Kyley:)”

How can one resist such a heartfelt and sincere plea? I ask you!

Of course I thought it was adorable and funny and I do know the Principal at the school so I brought the letter with me one evening when we went to see three of our girls in their Christmas choir performance. I happened to see Mrs. Davis. I handed her an envelope with the letter inside and told her I thought she would enjoy reading Kyley’s Christmas wish list. She asked, “Is it going to make me cry?” To which I replied, “Oh no, it will make you laugh!”

I didn’t really expect Mrs. Davis to do anything but read the letter and get some enjoyment out of it as we had done. I completely underestimated her, and the effect this little story would have on her. The next day, I was sitting in the family room with Vicki and Alina when my phone rang. It was Mrs. Davis “I thought you said it wasn’t going to make me cry.” Then I felt horrible because I really thought she would laugh. She went on to say that she had read it three times over and she came up with a plan to make Kyley’s dream come true. The letter was so compelling that she told her staff about it and got one of the kindergarten teachers to agree to let Kyley teach in her classroom for a day. They had it all arranged, just needed to get the go-ahead frome me. Of course, I was floored, I didn’t expect this at all. Wow! I mean, we all knew that we had a gold mine with this principal. She has been nothing but fabulous. But this was going above and beyond.

The next wonderful thing she did was to talk to her staff about how they truly are an influence to all these young students and have inspired this little girl to want to become a teacher. She asked them to donate something to Kyley that they  thought she could use for her first year of teaching. They called me to come pick up the box. I walked into the front office and they showed it to me. It was this enormous box filled with treasures galore. It also contained an envelope with a certificate inside that proclaimed Kyley Darger to be a teacher (upon completion of courses at the University). So clever and creative. I just wanted to cry when I saw all they had done. Mostly because I knew how much it would mean to Kyley.

Kyley In Front Of The Whiteboard Ready To Teach Her First Day Of School


She opened up the box on Christmas morning with the whole family looking on. She had the biggest smile on her face but hardly spoke a word. Later, when I asked her how she felt in that moment, she said, “Mom, I was speechless!”.

Her big day was last week. Not only did she co-teach the morning kindergarten class but they let her stay for the afternoon class as well. She absolutely loved it. The students loved having her there, and the teacher, Miss Cook…I can’t say enough about her willingness to open up her classroom and make Kyley’s dream a reality.

We wanted to do something special for everyone who participated in this amazing experience. I have this brownie recipe, which I’m pretty sure is the best recipe on earth. So Kyley and I made a huge pan for the faculty and staff, and also took two bouquets-one for Mrs. Davis, the other for Miss Cook. They told me at the office that day that when you bring a yummy treat, you HAVE to send the recipe as well. So, this is me, sharing this story, and the recipe. Enjoy!

Kyley with Marshmallow Brownie

Kyley with Marshmallow Brownie

Joy’s Marshmallow Brownies

4 oz. unsweetened chocolate baking squares
1 cup butter
4 eggs
2 cups sugar
1 Tbsp vanilla extract
1/4 tsp salt
1 cup flour


4 oz. unsweetened chocolate baking squares
1 cup butter
2 eggs
1 Tbsp vanilla extract
3 3/4 cups powdered sugar
4 cups mini marshmallows

Melt chocolate and butter in microwave until melted but do not overcook. Cook 1 minute then stir and repeat until smooth. Add eggs, sugar and vanilla. Combine flour and salt and add to batter. Bake @350 degrees in a 9″x13″ baking dish (greased & floured) for 25-30 minutes.

For frosting, follow the same instructions for butter and chocolate. Add eggs and vanilla. Beat in powdered sugar. Stir in mini marshmallows. Spread onto brownies immediately after removing them from the oven. Let stand for at least an hour. Refrigerate if desired.

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  1. Jan Darger says:

    I absolutely LOVE Kyley! She has kept you on your toes from the time she was born! Life is never dull with her around.
    Also, Mrs. Davis is truly an amazing principle. I know first hand of her, and she should set the precedent of the way that teachers and administrators should be. She really cares about the kids and that they succeed in school and life.
    Kyley, congratulations on your day! I hope that you do become a teacher, you have alot to give!

    • Valerie says:

      Mrs. Davis seems to always go above and beyond the call of duty. I feel like we won the lottery with her. She is respectful and caring and seemingly so aware of every child in her school. She has earned my respect and admiration. I hope she never leaves,
      As far as Kyley goes…yes, she has kept me on my toes. Remember when she used to go find the Pine-Sol and try to drink it? Always experimenting and learning about everything. Who knows, maybe she’ll end up becoming a science teacher!

  2. Rachel @ LifeHoldingStill says:

    That is awesome. I wondered how it went. Too precious.

  3. Lindsey says:

    What a fantastic story! It truly takes a village to raise a child and Kyley is lucky to have such a huge village holding her up! Thanks so much for sharing that story, I must admit I sniffled a little while reading it too!

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