We ARE Polygamists!

Today my son came home from football practice and as is usually the case, fills me in on some of the details of his day.  He said a friend told him his mom was reading our book and she liked it, so another kid overheard and asked what the book was about.

“It’s about our family,” said Logan.

Logan“What’s so special about your family?,” asked the kid.

“We’re polygamists,” said Logan, matter-of-factly.

“No, you’re not!”replied the kid, adamantly.

“Yes, we are,”  he stated again, calmly.

“No you’re not, I see them in the grocery store, they don’t dress like you,” he said, incredulously.

Logan smiled and explained to him that there are many types of plural families.  The boy ‘interrogated’ him as to how many ‘mom’s’ he had, how many siblings, etc., almost trying to trip him up to see if he was lying.

After several questions, he was satisfied and just said, “Cool.”

For most of our children there as been a lot of fear and dread about the book coming out. When it came time to tape Dr. Phil and 20/20 we were not sure if any of them would participate. But in the end everyone of them that were home at the time agreed to be on camera. I was so proud of them.

Now, it seems that they are growing more confident of who they are, where they are from, and understanding why we are taking a stand. In telling me the story, I was struck watching Logan in its telling. I think it was the first time he had ever proclaimed his polygamist family with such pride publicly. At 13, that was a bold step, and I am proud of him.

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14 Responses to We ARE Polygamists!

  1. Kristin says:

    I just watched your episode of Dr. Phil. I want you to know that there are non-Mormons who support and respect your lifestyle. You obviously have beautiful, loving relationships and beautiful children to prove it. I find your faith and the role that it plays in your lives to be inspiring. I hope that you’ll soon be able to live without fear of prosecution.

  2. Awesome. I’m so proud of all of you!

  3. Rebecca says:

    I am a life long LDS member and understand polygamy in our past. I watched your family on the Dr Phil show and was so impressed by all of you. Thank you for being willing to face the fire to stand for what you believe. Thank you for clarifying that Warren Jeffs has no affiliation with the LDS church, as well as many other families like your own, I cannot even imagine how many lives you have all touched.

  4. Shannon says:

    Personally your lifestyle is not for me, nor do I believe in it for religious purposes. But the way you live is your business. It really bothers me that this is illegal. It makes no sense that a loving family could be prosecuted by law when a man can have a wife and have a mistress that his wife knows nothing about, but that is not illegal!!! I think Joe made a good point when he said that their living arrangement is only illegal because he calls two of the ladies his wife. How can the title you give someone be illegal? I also think it is good to show that not everyone that has this lifestyle is married off to an older man when they are teenagers. Good luck to you all. I hope that coming out does not hurt your family.

  5. Michelle says:

    I just finished reading your book. From start to finish I could not put it down. I bought it more out of curiosity then anything else. I am glad I did. I hope you will continue to speak out. Coming from the East Coast where we face the issues of marriage equality for certain groups constantly. I found it shocking that your particular lifestyle was still under attack. How can this be? Our children are taught in school that “family” can mean lots of different things to different children. There is no “one size fits all” mold anymore.
    Maybe the problems are stemming from the culture of the West that is so rooted in Mormonism and their traditional view of what a family should be. I find it very hard to believe that any parent in my area would be shocked or bothered by your living arrangement. Most children here grow up in non traditional families of all shapes and sizes!
    Kudos to you and keep up the good fight! You have a beautiful family, intelligent children and an amazing story!!!

  6. cassie dekker says:

    I’m with Michelle. I bought the book two days after the episode on Dr. Phil out of curiosity. It was a great book. I choose to be an “ordinary” family. I have that choice and you guys should too. I fully support being able to live life the way you want. I do not think an honest family with morals should be punished. I think they need a way to punish the “Warren Jeffs” but at the same time figure something out so these kids do not have to live in fear. Keep doing what you’re doing. I love watching Sister Wives and I loved your book. It is educational for those of us who did not grow up that way but want to understand. Live your life one day at a time and keep loving your kids. :)

  7. Patricia Sjöberg says:

    I truly enjoyed reading “Love Times Three.” Your faith and how you live it out day to day is something I truly admire. Though I do not choose the same path, I respect your right to choose it, and I feel that the government should respect your rights also. Polygamy of all kinds should be decriminalized, and accommodations made in the law so that ALL the marriages are legal as well as religious.

  8. Tim says:

    Just watched your story on 20/20, and was really touched. I hope you feel like they portrayed your family with respect. Like many commenting here, I think living arrangements, partnership and marriage ought to be at the sole discretion of those people and families living them. There is such love in your family, it’s hard to imagine finding fault with it.

    Anyway, the reason I’m leaving a comment on this post is that one of the things that struck me the most, and brought a tear or two to my eye, was how eloquently Logan spoke about your family during the 20/20 interview. All of your kids should be applauded for having the courage to speak their minds on such a sensitive topic, to such a huge audience. But Logan, in particular, in this anecdote you talked about above, and to a national TV audience, really struck a chord. What a great, mature young man you’ve raised, among many other children to be proud of.

  9. While we are not Mormons, we are a plural family. We are each married to one another. Though we have a different history, we are in this “fight” to be able to not hide and be vocal and proud and legal for the same reasons and I admire your family, your values, and your work.

    • Vicki says:

      Jennifer,
      Thank you for reaching out! Your blog is excellent and full of candor. The more people are able to step forward with pride the more we can obtain respect and freedom. I am not sure why Mormon polygamists get all the attention when there are more non-Mormon polygamists than Mormon ones? Thank you for your support.

  10. john Nomads says:

    Our youngest told Mamma MJ, when we were over at her house, that he feels sorry that most kids anly have 1 mamma!

  11. Paweł Szulik says:

    OK, your son’s friend is only 13. He has a right to have a narrow idea of what polygamy is. But so many, so many adults don’t know more that him and that is really sad. They is so much prejudice and misconception about polygamy. But, you change a lot of this :)

  12. Maya says:

    I just saw a video on youtube about your family and thought I would check out your website. As a teenager, I know how tough it is to fit in even when you come from a family that society deems “normal.” So with that being said, I would think that it would be even harder when you come from a family that doesn’t exactly abide to the norm of things. It’s very admirable that not only the adults, but also the children, are able to talk about your family with such pride. Polygamists often get stereotyped and it’s nice to see that your family is trying to show people that you’re just as normal as everyone else. Although I do not share the same beliefs, I deeply respect and support your lifestyle. Obviously you guys are doing something right, because you’re raising such great kids.

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