It is interesting how many people make an issue of me being married to the same man as my sister. After all, it is in the Bible!
There are some things about it that are very natural. For instance, we grew up together and already know alot about one another. There is a level of trust and understanding that is already established. That isn’t always the case with another wife you are just getting to know. Like any relationship it takes time and experience to build up that trust. Also, since we were raised by the same parents we share a lot of the same values and parenting practices. If we are having a discussion, for instance, about the way to be consistent disciplining and training our children, Vicki and I will usually resonate with one another’s ideas.
Vicki and I also have a similar sense of humor. Sometimes I’ll crack a joke and Vicki and I will bust up laughing while Joe and Alina are scratching their heads trying to figure out what was so funny…and that makes us laugh even harder!
Everything isn’t always sunshine and roses though. We have misunderstandings and conflicts too. We try to work through these things and keep a close relationship.
One day we were invited to the neighbor’s for a birthday party. I was nine months pregnant and I thought we would walk together, both carrying our gifts and goodies. When I saw her heading out the door before I was ready to leave, I said, (sarcastically) “FINE! I guess I’ll just go later, by myself and carry this heavy tray of eclairs!” She was irritated by my tone and snapped back at me, “I hate it when you do that Val!” She stormed off to go to the party while I went straight to my bedroom, closed the door, climbed into my bed and cried. I was hurt that she reacted so harshly.
About ten minutes later Vicki was knocking softly on my door. She walked into the room saying, “I’m sorry for snapping at you. Please come to the party with me. I can’t enjoy myself knowing you’re upset and that I hurt your feelings.”
So, I forgave her and she forgave me. Being twin sisters AND sisterwives makes it doubly important for us to keep a close relationship.
The next day, I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. Throughout the labor and delivery Vicki was right there by my side, helping and supporting me, along with Joe and Alina. The events of the day before were completely forgotten as we experienced the amazing feeling that always comes with bringing a child into this world.